A true story: the reason why he cheated on her.

- August 17, 2019

Before I start this story, from my own view and understanding the reason was worth it and it was not .
but what I can say and advice is that if you (guys) are not sure about something don't start it because it can cause a lot of problems.

So I spoke to one of my sources about the reason why she was cheated on by her boyfriend and here is the story.
"So,if you have any questions or you also want to tell us your story, feel free to comment".

She said:

"Last year around august he messaged me. I did not think I would fall in love with him but I did. Things sparked off quite quickly(the feeling grew more), i had moments whereby i was scared about the distance but he assured distance wasn't a problem. He called me many times (via video call) before we sleep, he would sing for me, dedicated songs to me, wrote amazing poems and by then he was irresistible. I became attached and it seemed like my whole world revolved around him. I was a high school graduate he was a final year student of the same high school I went to. When he was to leave for school he assured me he was all mine. I went to see him once in school and we had moments also. After the first term he came home and things started getting pretty weird. He became so close to this particular girl. I was disturbed but when I talk to him about it, he always flares up and he plays the guilt card telling me I don't trust him and I'm insecure. As a cry baby that I am I cry he knows I cry and he started using it against me. Anytime anything goes wrong he always says don't come back to me crying. I used to feel very hurt but I still had a little tiny trust in him. So I went ahead to making friends with the girl. The girl and I became very close and that put my mind at rest. They both went to school for a period of say 5 months and in those 5 months a lot happened. I went to his school for his birthday and we tried to sort our differences. His sister came home from school after 2nd term and she told me he was dating this girl, I was hurt but I spoke to him he said he wanted to tell me something when he comes home. I spoke to a big sister of mine and she started preparing me for the worst. When he arrived, he was distant but I was prepared. he finally broke the news to me,
"He said that he dated someone else but he had me in mind but he wanted to tell me himself when he arrived. then,I told him that he hurt my feelings by cheating because you told me in the beginning that cheating was not your thing and I was shocked by what he said next,he said that he didn't cheat that he had me in mind even when he was dating someone else but he wanted to come
back from school to tell me personally"
i cried and ended things with him. and as days went by I only realized I was infatuated not in love".

Here is the lesson learnt:

The thing is what do I know that is love. But I've learnt lessons do not like a guy from what you make up in your head be double sure he is what you think he is. Don't judge based on what you think he is but what he actually is. Love is blind do not allow yourself to be blinded by love.

My reason here is DISTANCE.
My advice to guys or men is that you should know what you are doing. and from my own view of this story, I feel that when he later saw that it was not going to work he should have told her immediately and not after he cheated when he was still in the relationship. yes it will hurt her but am 100% sure that she will understand. instead of her finding out herself.